Seven questions · two minutes
Which of your floors are holding?
Answer for how things are now, not how they were or could be. Note: no couple is strong on all floors. (Erases immediately, nothing saved.)
I could tell you what is worrying my partner most at the moment.
We say out loud what we appreciate in each other.
When one of us mentions something small, the other looks up and answers.
When something goes wrong between us, I give my partner the benefit of the doubt.
We can disagree, even about something old, without it turning into something worse.
My partner knows what I hope for in my life, and takes it seriously.
We have rituals and traditions that matter to both of us.
Nothing answered yet
Your three floors
Answer the seven questions and this will show you the two floors you are standing on most solidly, and the one that could be a good place to start.
Based on these answers
Nothing stands out
You answered the same way for all seven, so no floor separates itself from the others. That is worth a conversation on its own, and it is the kind of thing the real assessment is built to pick apart.
Talk this through with usBased on these answers
Your strongest floor
No floor is holding yet
You answered Rarely across the board, so there is no floor to point at as a strength. That is a hard place to be sitting, and it is also the situation this work is built for.
Second strongest
Where we could start
Seven questions is a conversation starter, not an assessment. The real one looks at this and much more.
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